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Making friends with your heart and your brain

In my energy healing practice, I often hear people say that their heart is telling them one thing, and their brain another.

I imagine we have all been in this state: one in which we are living in a state of inner conflict. We feel an expectation from some unspoken agreement or the pressure of others or our job that we follow our brain and the direction of the environment external to us. Meanwhile, the cues of our inner guidance offer some alternative that just feels better, more alluring, more soothing, more healing and more life-giving.

But we squelch it. We dismiss it. We override it.

We live in a very–I’ll say it, OVERLY–mental society. We overthink, we stress out, we become anxious and we rely on and expect our brain in it’s overworked, incoherent and hazy state to make perfect decisions.

And when we are overworked and overwhelmed we tend to freeze in place, afraid to make any decision or take any action. When this happens we are living in survival mind, and like an animal in the wild facing a predator, unable to empower the fight or flight mechanisms, we attempt to become invisible and freeze in place, hoping to be unseen.

Leading with your heart

Want more peace?  The key is your heart. 

Want to calm the thoughts in your brain?  The key is your heart. 

Want to reduce sensations of stress and anxiety in your body?  The key is your heart.

Our heart is the most powerful energy center on our body and it’s the center of our energy anatomy.  We have all sorts of intuitive phrases that signal that it’s our heart, not our brain, that offers the best guidance.  We “think” with our heart.  We say: “heart-felt,” “follow your heart,” from the bottom of my heart,” “half-hearted,” “had a change of heart.”

When our heart is coherent, which is to say rhythmic in its fluctuation patterns and energetically harmonious, we feel at ease, calm, well and at peace.   

We can teach ourselves to voluntarily induce a state of heart coherence.  This state helps to regulate the heartbeat and autonomic nervous system, which in turn, entrains the brain to coherent order.  Order in the brain translates to sensations of ease and peace.

Changing your energy

Here’s a simple and easeful meditation to do anytime, anywhere:

1. Breathe into your heart center

2. Feel into the space that your heart and lungs occupy in your physical body

3. Use your imagination to generate feelings of gratitude, joy, love, care, appreciation, and other elevated emotion. Think about something that makes or will make you happy.  Feel it in this now moment as you breathe and feel into your heart.

In heart coherence we engage the unique wisdom, guidance and intelligence of our heart center, and experience sensations of connection, increased intuition, enhanced immunity, increased cognition, and the reduction of stress hormones. 

In meditation, this state fosters an elevated ability to make transcendent connection with universal life-force energy and can support energy flow within and around the body, as well as mystical experiences.

Do it for you!

Practically speaking, heart-brain coherence meditation is an act of emotional regulation.  We simply choose to “get into our heart,” and to generate an uplifted feeling. We make it happen!  In time, the choice to meditate in this way is an act of conditioning the body to a new level of mind.  Practiced consistently and intentionally, the body will memorize the state of heart coherence and we will notice immediately any person, place, condition or environment that “knocks us out” of coherence.

And because we have practiced, we will know exactly how to get back into heart-centered gratitude.  In time, there’s an obvious contrast that the things that used to bother us don’t have such an affect on us, because we love our inner peaceful sensations more than anything.

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7 ways to transform your self-image and master your inner energy using energy healing and meditation

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Our attention is the most precious, powerful creative essence on Earth.  Whatever has our attention has our energy.

Think for just a moment about what in your life holds your attention, and therefore your creative energy.

Are the things that have your attention life-giving? Do they support your peace and feelings of harmony in your body? Do they make you feel whole and free? Are you living with clarity and feeling aligned with a purpose that is fulfilling? Or maybe what has your attention makes you fragmented and disconnected? Maybe you feel sustained stress? Does it make you feel fearful and disconnected?

We could argue that this is a very challenging time to be human.  There are unprecedented demands for our attention.

View this as a time of possibility

And we could argue that it’s a time of great potential and possibility.

Many of us don’t want to carry on the current path.  Never mind what’s happening outside our body in our culture and time, we don’t want to carry on this way within our body.  We want to transcend our current conditions, feel more alive, improve our well-being, enjoy nurturing relationships with others.

We want to create a more beautiful reality from a greater level of consciousness.  And maybe we don’t articulate it in this way, but we hold that feeling in our body, that wanting.

In stress, it can be so hard to figure out how to elevate our perspective enough to create from a greater level of mind.

Nearly 10 years ago a series of events happened in my life that demanded I evaluate the trajectory I was on:

  • My mind was a mess of grief from my father passing and a bundle of stress and anxiety around my responsibilities. 
  • My emotions were all over the place and ruling my life with a boiling-just-under-the-surface level of frustration and anger.
  • My physical body was taking a hit, being worn out with repetitive, hard labor and manifesting mysterious issues in my stomach, heart and throat that no blood test, EKG, or imagining could identify or define.
  • I was losing interest in my profession, which I had a passion for in many ways but in which I was growing lonely, bored and restless. 
  • My relationship with my business partner and mother (who was and is one of my greatest friends and teachers) was strained and stuck.
  • I had a plaguing sensation, a dissatisfied feeling that there must be more to life. 

Be courageous and willing to modify your idea of what is reality

At that time my spiritual practice was disintegrating. I was practicing a religious tradition that felt incongruent with my heart: it taught me I was essentially flawed, sinful and unworthy but also made in the image of God, and I didn’t think those two concepts could co-exist in the same space, within the same (my) body.  And anyway, that religious institution was crumbling under its own weight due to its own wildly harmful, dreadfully misaligned, hypocritical, shadowy conduct.

All of these events happened simultaneously but across the span of a few years, playing out as things do when they dawn and build over time.  It all took a toll on mind, body and soul.

Previously I had relied on my analytical thinking to figure things out and I told myself this situation was no different: “Figure it out Diana, think your way through this,” I demanded.

Applying more work, more force, even bulling my way through things had always worked in the past and I figured this was no different.

But then something unexpected happened.

Become more energy, less matter…shift atttention from the physical to non-physical

In my turmoil, I figured I could soothe and fix myself through meditation, which to me meant that day after day I twisted my body up in what I called “the pretzel pose” (what normal people call the lotus pose) and tried to breathe deeply and shut up my mind.  I thought it was about technique, and that I just had to figure it out, based on what other people had done and what they typically instructed.

Then one day as I sat there wrapped in pretzel pose, I perceived the subtlest quiet uttering as my felt my body speak.  That’s just the best way to say it: I felt my body speak.  This to me was a novel sensation.  Looking back now I can see that up until that time in my life I had suffocated my body’s subtle feedback loops, it’s quiet and powerful communication system that is in place to self-regulate order and harmony in our life.  I believed my body to be and I treated my body like a draft horse that could pull through anything and everything through sheer willpower. 

Blinders on.  Head down. Focused.  Muscling through. Forging forward.

That day, my body told me to lay down, and that for me the pretzel pose was non-sense and uncomfortable.  It made no sense to willingly endure pain in pursuit of enlightenment—pain was a signal meant to que avoidance.

Honestly, it was like my body said to my brain, “For the love of God, Diana, just lay down and get out of our way.”

I love my body so much for that day and I love my brain for decoding its message.

Love and listen to your body, your wholeness

I laid down on my living room floor and propped my knees with pillows from my couch.  I was more than a tad bit fed up with typical meditation instruction like “just let the thoughts float across your mind like clouds across the sky.”

That wasn’t helpful to me because there were so many thoughts in my head the sky was totally overcast, a thick mat of grey clouds with no blue sky, no white fluffy clouds in sight.

Viewing meditation as something that happened in my head hadn’t served me.

I remember thinking as I lay down that day, “What if meditation means use my whole body, not my head?”

I shifted my awareness down into my body and let go of the idea that I was trying to not think.

I let my attention roam around in my feet and legs first, just noticing the space they occupied as I lay there on the floor.  I felt my hips and back in contact with the floor and let my awareness float around the space my abdomen and chest took up in the space of my living room.  I felt for where my arms were, their weight and then just feeling for the space they took up.

I just lay there feeling down into my body and forgetting about my brain.

I let myself drift into a semi-sleepy state and kept noticing the space of my body, taking it all in at once.  Soon I lost track of where my body was in space, and my mind couldn’t really tell the difference between the space of my body and the space around my body.

I didn’t really know what I was feeling for but I had the urge to “listen with my whole body.”  I didn’t know what I was listening for so I just paid attention, listening for sensations and movement.  Before long I felt a tingling at my right side, in the space between my lowest right rib and my hip bone. 

At first it felt like a non-physical energy tickle-itch down in my body and at the same time up in my head, in my minds eye, I could see the minute nerve endings down there wiggling around, excited, aroused.

It might sound a little strange, but the best way to put it is that my cells felt happy, like they were anticipating something.

“This feels good, so why not go with it?” I thought.

Teach yourself (take time) to trust what your subtle body is telling you

I held my attention on the tickling-itch sensation, trying to notice it more. The more attention I gave it the more it grew.  It was building and expanding and soon I felt like something outside of me was sending electrical signals to me and all I knew was it felt good.

It felt like three-dimensional goose bumps, the kind you get on your arms and back when someone tells you a story of a heart-moving coincidence or something exciting, thrilling, extraordinary or supernatural, only it was flowing like a sine wave throughout my whole body.

Suddenly I realized something was happening TO me.  I had noticed it but I wasn’t making it happen, it was happening to me.  The niggling good feeling blasted a sudden shot of what only can be described as gorgeous bliss through my body.  I had no control over it as it branched out, running down my left leg and shooting across my chest and up the right side of my neck and filling my head and brain with what felt like spaciousness and light.

This bliss like an elixir of energy: joy, love and harmony all bundled into one.  It was branching out through my body in a way that created the image in my mind’s eye of a tree’s root system as I realized the energy was like a low-grade electricity, “lighting up” my nerves and I could feel the precise structure of my intricate nervous system which I had never previously given a moment’s thought to.

It was like I was being mapped by the energy of some extraordinary force that was outside of but also within me. 

I just noticed kept my attention on it and hung on for the ride as pulsing waves of bliss gently washed through my body from right to left with amplitudes that ebbed and flowed in delicious wave after wave.

Let go of labels, biases and beliefs and become objective awareness itself

Under my belief system at the time, it took some presence of mind to hold on to the feeling and not to freak out, evaluate or judge as the extraordinary event unfolded.  Through my disordered, fear-based thinking at the time I wondered if something possessive was over taking me, but the more I felt and observed the sensations, the more I noticed the waves, the more I paid attention to it the more impossible it seemed that anything that felt so good could be even remotely bad. 

It was the energy of life giving me more life!

It was like a non-physical energy massage that was subtle, gentle, powerful, loving, intelligent, knowing and transformative.

And there was this gorgeous sense of the familiar although I’d never experienced anything like it: like this was something inherently natural, a natural state of being that I had forgotten but should remember.

In just a few incredibly beautiful minutes pure energy itself was teaching me what I was looking for through meditation.  Listening to my inner directive to lay down, I opened up the energetic pathways in my physical body.  Mentally I had become the observer, awareness itself.  I transcended the story of who Diana is, what she was reaching for and struggling against.

I had just forgotten all that and paid attention to something else.

Through intense focus paying attention to space, not my physical body, not thought, I had stumbled upon the present moment and when I held my attention in that experience as an objective observer.  And I became united with, unified with, coherent with the energy around me.

And the only thing around me (and it’s within and around each of us) was the bliss of life itself.

I was able to obtain information from it.  That information surprised me.  It made me feel known and loved in all of creation.  It had always been present, I just had never tuned into that aspect reality.

Know your energy anatomy and fall in love with its wisdom

I know I said in my previous blog that I’d share what I’ve learned about energy anatomy, but for some reason all this came out first.  I’ll do that next time and here’s why it’s mission-critical for our healing:

We all have an innate energetic guidance system that processes the energy and information of our life empowers us to direct our life in love.  Historically this system is called the Chakra system, but I think of it as a process and call it the Anatomy of Self-Love, because it is always:

  • Directing us to take the most life-giving actions, doing the most good and least harm
  • Helping us decide which people, which conditions, which jobs, which environments are most life-giving to us
  • Self-organizing and self-regulating our energy to maintain a state of harmony and balance
  • Grounding us in the here-and-now
  • Helping us transcend awareness into our multidimensional Self, which is Divine Love itself
  • And so much more!

This information has been known for millenia, but is now being validated, defined and understood by the sciences of neurology, endocrinology, cardioneurology, epigenetics and quantum physics.

When you know this anatomy, when you feel into it and into the energy within and around your body, you feel into how magnificent you are.  If you want to create a first-hand experience of knowing more about this, consider attending one of my upcoming Yoga Nidra healing meditation retreats.  For more information see here. 

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Fall in love with your wholeness

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I just love the Winter Solstice: the shortest day of the year, the longest night.  It marks the beginning of nature’s winter slumber, which is really no slumber at all.  While nature looks to be deeply at rest, vast transformational changes are in the making within the inner being of members of the natural world, and the fruits of these labors will only be evident in the future, come spring. 

To me the winter solstice is New Year’s Day—from here the days get longer and open into more light.  It’s a celebration of new beginnings and the life-giving, life-directing nature of light in the darkness, growth in the stillness.  Today marks the beginning of nature’s annual essential rest period—a “gearing down” that leads to revival and abundance.

For Us it can be a time to orient our attention toward the sacred nature of our own rest, our own inner being and our personal transformation.  A time to discover the depths of creative energy within and all around us.  It’s a time to learn how to tap into this life-giving energy, to authorize our next steps—in a very real way…energetically becoming the author of our own life no matter what’s happening outside of us.  As nature shows, the tree still evolves in the frigid, seemingly unfavorable conditions of winter.

This now moment is such a good time to ask the question: What would my life be like if I could embody the energy I most deeply desire and fully enjoy the experience of my reality?

Another way to say this is to ask, “What would it be like to be a body of joy?” or “What would it feel like to experience inner bliss no matter what’s happening in my exterior environment?”

In the spirit of new beginnings, I decided for 2022 I’d like to share more of what I know with you about answering these questions through this blog.  The process of how we become and embody what we desire is the art and science of transformational wellness.   For me, meditation and energy healing have been the two most valuable tools for me to stay focused on my inner evolution, and over the past couple years have been instrumental in staying grounded, balanced, well, useful to others and quite frankly, sane.

I’m excited about this new venture and about Us, and here’s why:  I believe we each came here, into this time and this place to be agents of cultural change.  We are here to be more love and to bring a more loving awareness to being human, to be fully human and fully Divine, right now.  I understand that this idea is at once a big one and a nearly impossible task considering what we are all in the process of globally, but in the same breath I would say these are perfect conditions to bring about this new reality.

I know this because every day in my vocation as a healer, I SEE YOU DOING JUST THIS!  We are doing just this!  We are sorting out what we don’t want, and we are learning to create more of what we do want, and we are doing it one heart, one body, one life at a time amidst—and despite—unprecedented isolation. We are learning that peace and harmony are an inner phenomenon, not a state-of-being that external conditions create for us.

Within the sanctuary of our inner being, the process of transformational change can feel disruptive and that’s because it’s a metamorphosis, and metamorphosis is inherently, necessarily disruptive.  We are moving, in an en masse evolution, from one state-of-being, one state-of-consciousness to another, higher state-of-consciousness and elevated state-of-being.

Disruption is key to innovation, or as we who were raised under financially impoverished conditions say, “necessity is the mother of invention.”

If as you read this you are thinking that change is too hard, that it takes too much energy that you just don’t have, that your mind isn’t settled enough, that life is too stressful, that there’s not enough time, that your job is too demanding to focus on yourself, that your body hurts too much to start something new, that you’re too old or too sick to change …that’s what I am aiming to help you with through this blog.   I want you to remember some key things:

  1. If you can think, you can change, you can transform.  It doesn’t matter if your mental house is like a Nascar race.  You can learn to slow it down and choose your thoughts, which are the starting point of your creation.
  2. You’re not broken and there’s nothing to “fix” even if you’re severely ill: there is only transformation from a current state-of-being to a state of greater wellness and coherence.
  3. You didn’t create your illness, but through conscious awareness and practice you can support your own healing in ways you may have never thought possible.
  4. You didn’t do anything wrong, and you’re worthy of all goodness.  Period.  Worthy! Of all goodness.
  5. You’re not alone and are by design connected to the All-and-All of creative energy, and it is at your service.  Just ask and allow.  And for most of us, that takes some practice.

Dr. Wayne Dyer, who I love so much and consider to be one of the greatest influencers of my life, said, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”  This extremely powerful statement is supported by the laws of quantum physics and is worthy of contemplation, but simply put we are creators and observers of our personal reality.  We have to look at things differently in order to change our reality.  We must observe ourselves into the change we want to embody.  Nobody will do it for us and as we all know, we can’t really count on the external world with its non-person institutions to accurately, reliably, equitably do it for us.

Dr. Dyer’s statement drives my passion for this work and it’s what I hope to help you do: to change the way you look at things, and watch your relationship with yourself, with others and with your life change for whatever you define as “better.”

I’ll be sharing with you what it’s taken me almost a decade to get the hang of…and my fervent prayer is that in sharing my story and what I have learned, your journey of understanding will take way less time and be way less of a painful direction-seeking struggle.

Nine years ago I consciously disrupted my life by ending a 24-year long career in a vocation I started when I was 19.  I loved what I was doing, thought it was meaningful for humanity and the planet, and my business was at the height of its success.  While many people couldn’t understand my choice, I felt I had to answer a question that had nagged me for a while…it wasn’t a clear question, really, it was more a sense that there must be more to experience.  I was doing soul-satisfying work that I was good at, but I wanted to know more people and to have new experiences in my life.

My intentional disruption of my known life caused me to undergo a process and it’s taken me years to identify that this process has clear steps.  I’ve done it over and over again, intentionally disrupting the known parts of my life in order to create a better experience for and within myself.  That’s what I’ll be sharing with you.

For me, this journey has led me to study behavioral health, the science of biofield and energy healing, meditation and breathwork.   It’s led me to the wisdom traditions of the East and the emerging science of epigenetics, cardioneurology, psychoneuroimmunology, quantum physics and more. 

Along the way I discovered many things I had not only never been taught, but I had absolutely no language around: energy anatomy and the infinite, wise, connected healer within.

I would call this process learning The Anatomy of Self-Love or Falling in Love with Your Wholeness.  Why anatomy? Because your body has a highly-ordered, self-organizing anatomical energy system that is always working with and for you.  It IS you!  You can get to know it, to feel it, to follow its guidance, and, amazingly—live in it’s bliss.

Why love and wholeness? Because that’s our true nature, our true self.  The practices of energy healing and meditation provide direct, first-hand experiences that reveal this truth. 

If the idea of self-love seems selfish, just check in with yourself and challenge that.  Because I can assure you one thing: when you love yourself more, when you feel into and fall in love with your wholeness and can see that you have creative power over your life experience and personal reality, two things will spontaneously happen: you’ll love everyone else more and you’ll want to share.

And won’t more of those two things heal a whole lot in our outer world?

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